The holidays can be a super stressful time even under the best circumstances. Couple them with trying to get a new relationship off the ground and it's a virtual minefield. So we turned to the ladies of The BEVY, a personal, membership-only matchmaking service, to see what they suggest we do to navigate the two most anxiety-provoking pursuits: holidays and dating. Their sage advice, which you can find below, will, as it turns out, benefit everyone — whether you're single, dating married or looking.

1. Don't get lazy.
The weather is changing on us and all we want to do is curl up by the fireplace with a glass of cab, a good book, and cancel all our plans. While this is totally fine in moderation, don't cancel a date or cancel on friends because you're too lazy to motivate out into the bitter cold. Keep on hustling - the more you're off the couch the more opportunities you'll have to meet someone really special.


2. Don’t fall out of touch.
Incubating a new relationship over the holidays is hard. You’re both traveling out of town for Christmas, New Years, family vacations. As they say, out of sight, out of mind, right? Wrong! If you’re into someone, keep them on their toes while you’re away. Stay in touch with texts, calls, photos or your grandma’s heinous holiday sweater.

3. Don’t be a fanatic, be festive.
Are you one of THOSE holiday fanatics, who literally has a Christmastime wardrobe? Are you exclusively wearing ugly sweaters and humming carols? Stop! No one likes that. ’Tis the season, but be normal.

4. Don’t be a scrooge.
As opposed to the above, don’t go 180 the other way. When you’re dating you should always be positive and upbeat. No need to go off on how terribly “commercial” a holiday is, or how it reminds you of your already crazy schedule and how expensive it will be to tip out your doormen.

5. Don’t drink too much.
Holidays are an amazing time to overimbibe. I mean, you haven’t lived til you’ve gotten overserved at your office holiday party. But dating is different. Even though the magic in the air is telling us to start drinking at noon, don’t do it if you’re going on a date. Show up fresh, and drink in moderation.

6. Commit to your resolutions.
It’s never to early to start your New Year’s resolutions. There's nothing more attractive to your date than someone who’s motivated. Wow - can’t believe you ran a marathon and volunteered in a soup kitchen all in the same week!

7. Don’t freak out.
Holidays get us thinking about bringing a date home with us, or planning on how to be successful in life and love in the coming year. All that anxiety is sure to be debilitating. Don’t get in your own head and try to enjoy the moment.

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The BEVY is an intensely personal matchmaking service that handpicks and vets qualified candidates to constitute their membership. Greta Tufvesson and Nikki Lewis launched The BEVY with a combined nine years of experience. After building one of the largest matchmaking firms in the country, the two identified a need for introductions within the social and sophisticated crowds of New York City, Los Angeles, San Diego, San Francisco, and branched off to create The BEVY. We provide unparalleled service in our selectivity, style, and confidentiality. No client request is too difficult.